Grad student dating a professor
Search committees are looking for someone who already speaks and writes like an employed colleague. They mumble and mutter and talk too fast, and above all, they ramble in an unfocused and evasive way.What that means is someone who is confident that their topic is sound, who gives a reasonable amount of evidence for the topic, but then quickly moves on to why the topic is important and path-breaking, and how the topic intervenes in major, top-tier debates in the scholarly field. Graduate students tend to display the classic signs of submission—tilted head (ref: your puppy), bowed shoulders, tightly crossed legs, weak and vague hand gestures, a querulous, questioning tone. They will often either smile and laugh too much, or conversely be grimly humorless (a sense of humor being one of the first casualties of the graduate school experience).
Search committees love a sense of humor, when it’s displayed in the course of smart collegial repartee.Provide those, and chances are your “radical” perspective will get a balanced hearing. This is understandable, because their status is insecure.I’m not saying you won’t have to fight for your perspective. One outcome of the insecurity is that you tend to “pile on” examples that “prove” that your topic is a legitimate one.Smile in a friendly way at the beginning and end, but not too much while you’re talking about your work.Your work is important and deserves a serious delivery.
With very rare exceptions, faculty barely even think about the graduate students in their departments.