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Dating unbeliever

Often (but not always), those who are pondering this question readily acknowledge that the Bible says a Christian cannot marry a non-Christian.Nevertheless, they believe they can move down this path because (1) the Bible does not forbid dating an unbeliever; or (2) their romantic relationship can serve as a means of evangelism to the unbelieving boyfriend or girlfriend; or (3) their situation is unique; (4) a combination of some or all of the above. In answering the question, Can a Christian Date a Non-Christian?In the words of one woman who was married to a perfectly nice man who did not share her faith: “If you think you are lonely before you get married, it's nothing compared to how lonely you can be AFTER you are married!” Really, this might be the only effective pastoral approach: to find a man or woman who is willing to talk honestly about the difficulties of the situation and invite them into a counseling ministry with the about-to-make-a-big-mistake unequal couple.I suspect that this would be an inferential conclusion, and thus would have to be considered a matter of personal conviction, rather than as a clear biblical prohibition.One could certainly ask, “If a Christian cannot marry an unbeliever, why would they ever date one? I think one can have a friendship relationship with an unbeliever of the opposite sex, without entering into a dating relationship.

If only I could pair those sadder and wiser women—and men—who have found themselves in unequal marriages (either by their own foolishness or due to one person finding Christ after the marriage had already occurred) with the blithely optimistic singles who are convinced that their passion and commitment will overcome all obstacles.

As you know, there are some Christians who believe that any dating is inappropriate.

It seems to me that one has trouble defending this view from Scripture.

That way, I could skip all the Bible passages that urge singles only to “marry in the Lord” (1 Corinthians ) and not “be unequally yoked” (2 Corinthians ) and the Old Testament proscriptions against marrying the foreigner, a worshiper of a god other than the God of Israel (see Numbers 12 where Moses marries a woman of another race but the same faith).

You can find those passages in abundance, but when someone has already allowed his or her heart to become engaged with a person outside the faith, I find that the Bible has already been devalued as the non-negotiable rule of faith and practice.

Within the context of a friendship relationship, the Gospel can surely be shared.

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And since dating is the first step toward marriage, it follows that Christians should not date non-Christians either. But many people think this is the ideal rather than the norm. I have met so many believers who—when times got tough or lonely—ditched that rule and started a relationship with an unbeliever. “What could be the. 
10-Jan-2019 20:51
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Jan 22, 2012. I have often thought how much simpler it would be if I could remove myself from the conversation and invite those already married to unbelievers do the talking to singles who are desperately trying to find a loophole that would allow them to marry someone who does not share their faith. That way, I could. 
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There is nothing wrong with building quality friendships with unbelievers, but that is as far as it should go. If you were dating an unbeliever, what would honestly be your priority, romance or winning a soul for Christ? If you were married to an unbeliever, how would the two of you cultivate a spiritual intimacy in your marriage? 
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Jun 14, 2015. Hey Friends! I'm so thrilled to have pastor and bestselling author Gary Thomas as my guest at TrueLoveDates.com, where we start important conversations about love, dating, sex and relationships! Pastor Gary's work has been influential in shaping my perspective on marriage and relationships, and I've. 
10-Jan-2019 21:05
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Jun 6, 2017. Ever since my first ministry post as a middle school ministry director in 2003, I've dealt regularly with Christian folks who want to know if it is acceptable for them to date an unbeliever. Often but not always, those who are pondering this question readily acknowledge that the Bible says a Christian cannot. 
10-Jan-2019 21:10
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Jan 2, 2015. I hope other young Christians can avoid the awkwardness of this situation, but one thing my story proves is that the question of whether or not to date an unbeliever can come up more easily than you might think. Just because you plan on only dating other Christians doesn't mean an attractive unbeliever. 
10-Jan-2019 21:13
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I think it's safe to say that every marriage starts out with a simple date. Many Christians are deceived when it comes to this. They feel all right about dating an unbeliever, just as long as it doesn't "get too serious." They may think, "Well, one or two dates can't hurt any one. Besides, maybe I can lead him to the Lord. I just want. 
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May 5, 2014. People are going to try and point to 2 Corinthians as Biblical proof that you shouldn't date an unbeliever. “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” In truth, making this verse about not. 
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